Basic blackish dresses are always in style and are easy to accessorize with anything.
Women love to get dressed up for a party.
Buying a party dress is part of the fun. Sequins, lace, tulle, and silk accent a dress and make a girl feel like a princess. Now look, the mother of a ’13yearold’ girl comments that in my opinion an important point is that different clothing are for different environments -hanging out with girlfriends in short shorts at a sleep over is different than wearing a push up bra that powers up your breasts when preparing to church.
I feel lots of us know that there is the serious problem of respect whenit gets to covering your body.
Some young girls need more guidance in this department than do others. I would add that young girls are not born with a feeling of respect for oneself or with an understanding that fashion choices are situational.
I close with a comment from an exasperated young man after he read a Ms Magazine blog, What Do Dress Codes Say About Girls’ Bodies?
What actually is even sadder is that we even have to have this conversation above all.
Now this article speaks almost exclusively about women, and that is what my comments have addressed. For balance, let me also say that guys walking around with their asses hanging out of their pants is equally as inappropriate and, to me. You should take it into account.c’mon. Normally, we have to strike a BALANCE!!! Known how friggin’ hard is it to dress appropriately!!??!!?? Seriously. Views and opinions expressed on this blog are purely the blog contributor’ Any product claim, statistic, quote and akin representation about a product or service going to be verified with the manufacturer or provider. So, writers may have conflicts of interest, and their opinions are their own.
In this situation I reckon the grandmother who purchased the questionable high heels must be justified to say, You need to know that I consider these shoes inappropriate for a girl of your age.
I will be happy to buy these other kinds of shoes, Know what guys, I will not buy them for you.
Accordingly the point is that certain values are being communicated and reinforced when adults refuse to make certain purchases -values that should be rejected in the moment, but can be accepted at a later time, the kids can use their own money and sneak off to buy shoes, and akin clothes. Needless to say, parents and grandparents need to be clear about how they are willing and not willing to spend their money on kids’ and grandchildren’s clothes.
Another readers writes.
I am wondering if date rape is affected by a girl’s appearance, I know stranger rape has nothing to do with appearance and is mostly about power and control.
It might be helpful for parents of girls to know that how a girl dresses is a safety issue, it is a slippery slope being that it’s NEVER the victim’s fault. Since this creates a feeling of control, she suggests that people look for to believe dress is a critical factor in sexual assault, contrary to research. Therefore, I might be safe, So if I don’t dress sexy. Know what, I cite research conducted by law professor Theresa Beiner that indicates that despite decades of ‘she was asking for it in that skirt’ commentary, noone has ever been able to show a correlation between how a victim dresses and her chances of sexual assault, with an intention to address this comment. Now look, the daughter’s embarrassment became obvious, as the evening went on.
Now look, the dad writes. There was no ‘Dad I get it’ or ‘Dad you’re top-notch. Noone in my family ever again used that phrase, my date said to my brother. ‘What a disgusting and disrespectful thing to say.’ We never talked about it. Another reader shares her experiences of feeling sexualized in her own home by her family. When I was around 10 I developed big breasts. My older brother started referring to them as my ‘mammoth melons.’ Everyone laughed, even when I ld them it hurt my feelings. Generally, it didn’t stop until I was in high school and my brother used that term in front of a nice guy I was dating. Both parents, and especially dads, need to monitor sexist and sexualizing comments and explain why they are not permitted. Chances are that what’s going on ain’t really funny, I’d say if someone in the family was not laughing. Nevertheless, it is an example where parents need to pay more attention to family humor and jokes to be sure hurtful and sexualizing behaviors and comments aren’t being ha ‘haed’ away.